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41 Easy Fall and Thanksgiving Centerpiece Ideas

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Armed with fall produce, fallen leaves and a few crafty finds, you can easily transform your space into a harvest-inspired haven. Just look to one of the following DIY centerpiece ideas—affordable and cheery, any of these projects will add just the right amount of warmth to your seasonal spread.

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The Work-from-Home Job That Saved My Family

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From Woman’s Day

I have two beautiful sons. Caden is 14. He’s so tall (6’2″!), a hormonal teenager, but also super sweet. And Lucas is 10. He is loving, gentle, and a little mischievous. I have always wanted to be a mother, and I feel very blessed to be my boys’ mom. This journey is not what I had envisioned, but through Caden and Lucas, I have learned a lot about myself and found strength I did not know I had.

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My husband, Chad, and I have been married for 17 years. We met when I was in high school and after the wedding quickly settled down in our hometown of Bowie, Texas. I earned my associate’s degree and got a job as a social worker for the state of Texas. Chad completed his training and became a plumber.

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Two years later, we had Caden. He was very sickly when he was born, in and out of the hospital with stomach and lung issues and extreme weakness. He was slow to hit milestones-he wasn’t walking or forming words by his first birthday. There were so many tests and treatments, the medical bills were mounting and the stress of not being able to pay them was unbearable.

When I was a little girl, my grandmother was an Avon representative. As an adult, I used the products, and I liked them and wanted to share them with others. I knew I needed a work-from-home side business that wouldn’t take me away from my family, something I could schedule around therapies and doctor visits. I started selling Avon on the side to try and keep us above water.

Around that time, Caden was diagnosed with autism, and four years later, with a lot of therapy and doctor support, he was beginning to slowly progress. He finally began to walk by 4 years old and was able to start a program for special needs children at our local school. We knew we wanted another child. We prayed about it, and we were blessed with Lucas. From birth we knew that Lucas was not meeting his milestones either. He was very floppy, sickly, and possibly in worse shape than Caden. Heartbroken and devastated (to say the least), we focused on giving the boys the best life possible.

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We are strong believers in God. I know He has a plan. But when Lucas turned a year old and got pneumonia and was on life support for 17 days, it shook my faith. The hardest thing in the world is to watch your baby fight for his life, struggling to breathe, and not be able to fix it. As mothers, we are supposed to make things better.

We are strong believers in God. I know He has a plan. But when Lucas turned a year and got pneumonia and was on life support for 17 days, it shook my faith.

We got Lucas better and home, but on his second birthday, he contracted pneumococcal pneumonia and was on life support for another 21 days. His lungs were so damaged. We began to pray. Our neurologist, Dr. Warren Marks, came to us and said, “This isn’t autism. I think I know what it is, but the only way to be sure is to do a genetic test. It costs $20,000, and your insurance won’t cover it unless it comes back positive.”

And I said, “Well, I don’t have $20,000 lying around.”

God performed a miracle when Dr. Marks said, “Well, I do. I’m going to run this test and if it’s MECP2 Duplication Syndrome, your insurance will pay for it. If not, I’ll cover it.” Chad and I could not believe what we were hearing. The doctor thought he had the answer we had searched for since Caden was born. Because their characteristics were so similar, we assumed that whatever Lucas had so did Caden. This amazing doctor showed kindness beyond measure to our family.

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We tested Lucas, and it came back positive for MECP2 Duplication Syndrome. Then we tested Caden and he also tested positive. Everyone has the MECP2 gene in our bodies-Caden and Lucas have double the amount. It is debilitating and causes seizures, autoimmune deficiency, cognitive deficiency, and weakened muscles and gait, as well as a lot of autism features. There are about 10,000 boys in the world with this syndrome. (There’s also a “sister” syndrome that affects girls called Rett Syndrome-country star Clint Black lost his niece to it.)

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Everyone told me to institutionalize my children. With the amount of care they require, it’s so difficult to keep your children at home. Both of my boys are nonverbal, with gait abnormalities, spasticity in leg muscles, incontinence, autoimmune deficiency, asthma, ADHD and many autism features. We must prepare all of their meals, dress them, bathe them and supervise them at all times. We know that they both have learning delays, but it is very hard to ascertain their IQs because of the difficulty in testing them. Caden has also begun having seizures and Lucas has swallowing difficulty.

Many boys with this syndrome have life expectancy of 14 years, so I had just received a death sentence for both of my children. How could I send them away when I wanted to spend every moment possible with them? It’s a good thing I had a secret weapon. I was still working for the state of Texas as a social worker for the Aged and Disabled division, and I knew all about the resources to help pay for medical programs, therapy, and support groups. My boys require 24-hour supervision, and this requires part-time nursing care in our home. As you can imagine, a family on a middle-class income can’t afford to have nurses come in, but I found programs to help with that. We were blessed to have good health insurance and the ability to find the resources we needed. But I was quickly using up all of my vacation time to take the boys to therapy and doctor appointments. The stress was becoming unbearable.

I had just received a death sentence for both of my children. How could I send them away when I wanted to spend every moment possible with them?

At this point I was working my Avon business on my lunch breaks and late into the night after the boys went to bed. My community of amazing people who are great customers supported my business and family. I also found a sisterhood of Avon representatives who work alongside me. I trained them to do what I was doing so they, too, could build residual income. My Avon business helped pay for copays to therapy and doctors’ visits, pharmacy bills, gas money, and groceries. This income was becoming more helpful than I had ever imagined.

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About 4 years ago, my mother, who is 60 and diabetic, had a heart attack. I’m the only of her children who lives nearby, and I needed to be there for her during her recovery from a quadruple bypass. Then Lucas woke up one morning and couldn’t walk due to muscle issues. I had no vacation days left. Chad and I realized that I could make the same amount of money with my Avon business that I did from my full-time job, so I left my job with the state of Texas and took on more Avon, which allowed me to focus on the boys’ and my mother’s care.

Now, I work 25 to 30 hours a week. Technology has blessed me and my business. I can do a mentor call, training video, or write an email when I’m waiting for one of the boys’ appointments or during therapy. I utilize social media and have grown an amazing team of fellow Avon representatives and customers that have become a support system to my family.

One year ago, we completed construction on a completely handicap accessible home-paid for by the money I made with Avon. The accessible bathroom has a roll-in shower, bars and a lowered sink to make bathing easier. We have ramps instead of steps and larger door frames to accommodate my sons’ wheelchairs. Since we were able to build on Chad’s family farm and the boys love the outdoors, this is their happy place.

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I’ll be honest, the balance is hard. Time management is the key to making the whole engine run. If one hiccup happens, I have to step back and refocus, make a new plan and move forward. I am a huge list maker and run things on a system to make sure that everything our family and business needs to accomplish happens.

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But not everything is so strict. We are big entertainers and we have family and friends over for cookouts. We open up our home and have people over because it’s easiest for the boys. But we also take them out to restaurants. The boys hoot and flap; it can be loud, disruptive, and embarrassing. But I only have my boys on this earth for a limited time, and if you have a problem with them, you can move to another booth. Every opportunity that we have to take a trip with them and make memories, we do. We are very active in our local church where the boys are loved and encouraged to worship freely. We are active in Special Olympics, the boys competing in track and basketball. I don’t live life by a time clock. The amazing support system of family, friends, church family, and Avon family makes being a caregiver so much easier. We are blessed to be surrounded with a tribe of support!

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I have also been deep into fundraising. Parents of children with MECP2 Duplication Syndrome have banded together to create 401project.com, a website that raises money for research on the condition. The Baylor College of Medicine lab at Texas Children’s Hospital in Houston discovered MECP2 Duplication syndrome and is working on a medication that can bind the gene and possibly reverse it. It’s working in mice, which is a long way away. Our group is actively fundraising for the cure, as we do not have any large foundations to support our cause. Every year, Avon offers a stuffed animal sale, where representatives donate their profits to charity. Mine is always 401 Project. I’m going to spend every minute I can with my boys and do everything I can to help them and the thousands of boys like them.

Learn more at 401project.com, which raises money to cure MECP2 Duplication Syndrome.

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I Helped My Mom Fight Cancer—Now I Want to Help Other Teens Do the Same

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My mom has been healthy for nearly two years, but I’ll never forget how I felt when she told me she had cancer. I had just rolled out of bed, my teenage mind occupied with the day’s agenda: algebra test, volleyball practice, Girl Scouts troop meeting. My parents ushered me into my dad’s home office and sat me down on the couch.

When my mom said the word, “cancer,” my whole body went numb. I sunk deeper into the couch. I was so scared. “What’s going on?” I asked them. “What does this mean?” To me, cancer was a death sentence, but Mom assured me that everything was going to be okay.

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My mother is a fighter when it comes to her health. When she was pregnant with me, she had to have a pacemaker inserted. The cardiologist had said I would have died without it. When I was young, she had other procedures to remove her appendix, her ovaries, a tumor in her shoulder and another from her brain.

I helped her as much as I could during her recovery. Because I was always a step behind if not right beside her, my mom called me her shadow. After her brain surgery in 2010, she also called me her cane, her eyes, her voice, and her mind.

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Although breast cancer runs in my family and my great-grandmother died of it, I never thought it could affect my mother. She was my rock and my best friend-not to mention my Girl Scout troop leader and my childhood teacher.

Luckily, the doctors found the small spot in her breast tissue at stage zero or pre-cancer. First, she had a lumpectomy to remove the pinhead-sized spot and began radiation several weeks later. My online class schedule let me to go to every single session with her-Monday through Friday at 7 a.m. for 33 days.

I usually wasn’t allowed past the waiting room, but one morning I got to see the treatment in action. As my mom lay very still, nurses took 20 minutes to perfectly position her in the machine. The treatment only lasted five minutes and she never looked like she was in pain, but radiation was far from easy.

After each session, my mom got a burst of energy then crashed. Once she fell asleep during my volleyball practice. Seeing her slumped over in the stands almost gave me a heart attack. I was scared and confused. I remember asking God, Why is she going through this? She hasn’t done anything wrong. Most of all, I was frustrated I couldn’t just make her cancer disappear.

I was scared and confused. I remember asking God, Why is she going through this? She hasn’t done anything wrong.

I tried to focus on what I could do: run errands, cook. When I wasn’t helping my dad with meal prep, I was mixing up and baking snacks for my mom with whatever we had in the kitchen.

When she was too tired to get out of bed, I sat beside her scrolling through websites on my laptop about cancer treatment, research, and nutrition to make sense of what was happening to her. But everything I found was written for either adults or young children, either too technical or too simple for me. None of my friends had gone through something like this, so I couldn’t turn to them either. Instead I learned by watching, listening, and just being there for her.

Radiation turned out to be successful. In April 2016, a year after my mom’s diagnosis, the oncologist declared her cancer-free. We cried when we got the news. Once my family’s nightmare was over, I realized that I had the potential to help other teenagers whose loved ones have cancer.

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That summer, I thought up The Shoulder to Lean on Project, a website where teens could go for easy-to-understand information about the types of cancer and treatment, how to care someone dealing with side effects of radiation and chemo, and how to cope and care for yourself during those difficult times.

Over the next year, I worked on the site for my Girl Scout Gold Award, a capstone project and highest honor earned by a scout. One of my mom’s nurses served as my advisor for the project and helped connect me with oncologists, members of the patient-family advisory board and other professionals from Wellstar, a state healthcare organization that is now sponsoring my project. I also recruited a genetic counselor to write articles and other teens to share their personal stories.

I hope my website is a resource for other teens with sick parents.

Earning my Gold Award in September was incredible, but the best part of the project has been realizing its potential to help others. Honestly, I think a lot of kids won’t say anything to me directly about the site because they don’t want others to know they’re on it or need that information. (After all, I kept quiet about my mom’s diagnosis for a while.) And that’s why I made a website; it’s anonymous and accessible.

But once when I presented the site to students, a girl whose father had passed away from cancer broke down in tears. Although she didn’t have the website when she needed it, she said it was a huge weight off her shoulders just knowing that something like this existed now. All I want is to affect someone, so that meant so much.

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Mom always says things happen for a reason. Obviously I wish that my mom didn’t have to go through cancer diagnosis or treatment, but I’m glad I was able to turn the experience into something constructive. I’ve created a support system for teens and discovered my own dream of becoming a neuro-oncologist-a doctor who specializes in treating patients with brain cancer-in the process. Most of all, I’m grateful that Mom is healthy again and that I can continue holding her hand, serving as her shadow, and providing her a shoulder to lean on for whatever comes her way.

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